How we treat others is a reflection of who we are. It is the darkest moments we find out who we are, what strength we yield and the true intent of those around us. We may find those we held closest turn out to be unrecognizable to who we once thought they were. On the other hand, we often find support, kindness, and love in the most surprising places. And as for us, how we treat ourselves and others through trying times can reveal who we are at our core. Do we show compassion? Contempt? Do we seek revenge, or do we go forth with grace? It never ceases to amaze me when I see or read about individuals who have suffered great atrocities in their lives turn the pain they experienced into compassion and empathy for others. And even in their pain and suffering, they display a type of gentle humanity, giving to others what they may not have received themselves. Of course, what I am writing is no easy feat. To be kind to others even when we are hurting can be a herculean task. We can often justify our actions if someone does something hurtful to us and in turn, we lash out at them, saying or doing things which we know will bring them harm. Even if we are remorseful later, how we react can have consequences far beyond any one fateful moment.
So, to say that our responses are crucial to the outcome of our lives may sound a bit dramatic, but it is a simple truth. And to say we must take responsibility for ourselves at every step along our journey is absolutely necessary if we are to seek the best possible outcome. Every day, we have new opportunities to respond differently than we once may have. Every day, we can choose to give the compassion and understanding we so desperately need ourselves. Every day be the person you so claim to be and let it
show in every action you take and each word you speak.
And if you find yourself struggling with this, struggling with reacting instead of responding appropriately, it may be a good time to ask for help. You can always reach out to trusted friends or family, there are classes available for healthy relationships or anger management and of course, you can reach out to a mental health specialist who would be happy to help you on this journey of growth.